Vent! Letting It All Air Out

Feminism…..

When people hear that word, they think of a lesbian holding a sign saying “Men are the worst” lol that’s not a feminist. Feminist, if you look up the definition, means someone who believes in the equality of men and women. SOMEONE not a specified gender. I believe this term has a negative connotation because most men like the double standards of our society. They feel threatened when a woman wants the same standards as them. And if they are insecure, of course they will be threatened. Only insecure men believe in this double standard or they were raised in that way so it’s ingrained in their brain. I mean, why else would some men feel the right to even voice an opinion on woman’s issues such as abortion for example. Abortion only takes place in one genders’ body and that should be the only gender to choose what happens because raising a child is a life changing situation.

Basically a feminist wants EVERYONE to be on the same page. The biggest misconception is also that a feminist only cares about women’s equality but they only emphasize that because men already have their equality. Feminist are basically speaking for those who haven’t had a voice for a LONG time. Women have a loving and nurturing temperament at heart, regardless of how we are perceived. Think of your mother, or a motherly figure in your life and maybe you can view other women as such. If you are in the presence of a disrespectful or toxic woman, just remove yourself rather than act and end up in jail. But, most women will always support those that they love so if you have a woman in your life that you love and respect, make sure she gets the shine she deserves and always knows how important she is! New podcast episode below btw 👇🏾

Check out our latest episode of Vocals by T

Be careful what you wish for 🤫 & know your true intentions

Words are very powerful! You can truly speak to the universe. That’s how you create your own reality. When you say the same things over and over again, your mind starts to believe it whether it’s true or not. You gotta understand the way that the human brain works. (Learn more about the human body in general if you don’t. I mean you would look up reviews on a product to buy or a place to travel. You at least deserve to learn more about the vessel you are inhabiting) The human brain works on habits, repetition and also is provoked by the way your subconscious mind thinks. Sadly, we don’t totally control our subconscious mind so it’s important that we know our intentions. When you don’t expose your true intentions, you won’t receive what you are hoping to get.

One big thing I want to mention is don’t wish for anything. Wishing tells the universe that you don’t deserve it. Instead, articulate what you have because you do have everything you need right now. Even it’s not hard to see physically, just know you have what you need to survive. Breath in your lungs is what you have. The ability to compose your own thoughts is what you have. Overstanding being in possession of things you feel you don’t have (at the moment) will actually make them become apart of your reality. Simply teaching your brain to believe in your thoughts is how you open your mind and create your own reality. How do you think pathological liars believe what they say is true? It’s the repetition of the belief and faith in themselves. If people with bad intentions can do it, why not you? In my latest podcast, Josh Marquel & I discuss sacrifice and intentions check it out below!👇🏾

Vocals by T Ep. 3 w/ T Money aka Erica Kane & Josh Marquel💫🥰

Contact me on instagram @ericakanebitch or @marqueltheleo if you or someone you know would like to be a virtual guest!

Your soul is priceless…..

Selling your soul is easy but is it worth it? I’m not referring to only celebrities or famous people. To me, selling your soul is doing something you don’t want to but you do it for another reason that really doesn’t benefit you but appears that it does. It’s like dangling cheese in front of a rat on a treadmill. When you feel like you are getting closer just to be moved further away, get out of that situation. I don’t care what it is. Work, family, lover, friends etc. Doing things that manipulate your true feelings or morals. Knowing that your character is being changed and not standing up to change or stop it from happening. You can’t run away from being yourself and once you realize that things will fall into place in your life.

And why would you NOT want to be who you are? You are amazing! There is literally no one else like you, even if you are a twin lol. Overstanding your true potential and purpose is part of your life journey. But if you aren’t being yourself, how can the universe send you what you truly deserve? How can you know if you are on the right path or not? It’s hard to decipher fact from fiction when you are being fake yourself! It’s utterly impossible honestly. You don’t have to participate in the “rat race” that society has pressed upon you. Just do what genuinely suits and makes you happy! Like I mentioned before, it’s the simple things. Love yourself, you can’t go wrong 🙃

Are you an Indigo?

First off, what is an indigo person? There are different definitions, but they are pretty similar in essence. The main meaning is someone who is believed to possess spiritual or supernatural abilities. Indigo’s understand that humans are behind in the spiritual life and are here to help change the world in their own way. They typically don’t have fear (False Evidence Appearing Real), so they are able to explore the depths of humanity and will travel without question. People tend to be drawn to them because of their confidence and outlook on life. It’s obvious if you are an indigo, there is no question. I know I am indigo and it thoroughly explains things I been through and will go through in my life. The color indigo itself, represents integrity and deep sincerity.

Indigos, I feel, have had many experiences of being “fucked over” or “done dirty” by those they have helped or attempted to. Rather than react, we have to RESPOND. Responding requires thought and tact. It also requires understanding that there is a time and place for anything as well as some things aren’t even worth your energy! I have learned that experiences are lessons. Once you get that, you will perceive your situations differently. It’s all about perception! How you look at something determines how you will move accordingly. Take a step back and look at your life. View things in a way that you learn something. That’s what makes life so exciting!

Check out the 2nd episode to Vocals by T w/ Josh Marquel!

Following my dreams….🤩

The journey of life is quite exciting…No matter where I turn or who I talk to, I have learned that nothing comes easy. And anything that comes easy comes with a price tag. Like Kali Uchis said in her song ‘After the Storm’ with Tyler the Creator, “Nothing good ever comes easy. I know times are rough. But winners don’t quit so don’t you give up!” Honestly, the entire song is a mantra for positivity, but this part in particular resonates with me. It’s also very accurate. Only true grinders and hustlers understand this. Basically keep pushing through because your hard work and dedication isn’t going unnoticed by the universe and you will reap the benefits, just stay patient and tolerate.

I have hit many bumps and potholes traveling this lonesome journey, but I have been meeting some amazing people along my way. The things that have been brewing in my dream factory are slowly being transferred to reality. I used to always speak on my next moves and wondered why they never fell through, but then I realize it’s because actions speak louder than words. Once I started DOING instead of TALKING, the attraction flocked to me like never before. One true power we all have is the power to succeed, but along our route we cannot be a GPS to others; otherwise it allows them to help blockade or slow down our path to greatness. All I’m saying is keep certain things to yourself. Some people are just nosy or want to include themselves in your plans and that’s not the goal. Everyone has their own path. Some paths intersect but you should always have your own personal map that you follow. I honestly feel sorry for those who don’t understand their purpose. Don’t lose focus, otherwise you will lose yourself.

There is no right or wrong answer!

Stop letting people’s potential judgement of you or your actions determine how you express yourself! It’s completely immoral to yourself as an individual. Most people judge for their own pathetic and insecure reasons. But you shouldn’t stress over what you can’t control. In my childhood, I let bullying, name calling and rude remarks stop me from being my true self in front of others. It caused me to create a shell and that shell became someone that I wasn’t proud of. I learned never let others change your true identity.

On my first personal podcast’s very first episode, Vocals by T, my guest Josh Marquel ❤️ mentioned that he wanted to manifest re-identifying himself. I love that because he realized that he too wants to break out of his old shell and really shine in his true light! I want everyone reading this to take heed and ask yourself, if you are being your true self no matter who you are with especially when it comes to yourself. It’s not easy at first but once you start taking the initial steps to being your true self, you won’t regret it at all!

Watch my NEW podcast very first episode with special guest Josh Marquel now! 👆🏽

Gratitude is all we need…

If only it was so simple to grasp the concept! But it is! Reflecting on what you don’t have isn’t going to get you anywhere. It’s very easy to spiral down that rabbit hole but I know that WE ALL have the strength to focus on what’s necessary in life. The moment most people really dwell on gratitude is when they are at their lowest and have to pull themselves up. It’s honestly something we need to look at no matter where we are at in life. I feel that gratitude keeps your positivity boat floating and without it, you will sink into a miserable abyss. Remember that gratitude doesn’t have to involve large or material things. It has its more sincere and genuine role when affected upon an emotion or how you feel when you are with someone you care about.

In my life, I am super grateful for having my daughter in my life. She is the most important person in my life. I feel this gratefulness because she actually teaches me things about myself that I didn’t know. I learned how I am able to stretch my limitations and really prove to myself that I am worthy to be alive. I don’t always feel like I deserve her because she is so amazing but just being in her presence gives me so much joy and fills up my heart. Anytime I’m having a bad moment, I contemplate on what keeps me going and it’s the things that I am truly grateful for. Breathing air, eating a favorite food, enjoying a movie, vibing with good friends, running barefoot on a beach, trying new adventures and the list goes on and on. The appreciation for these seemingly “simple things” in life mean a lot more to people who don’t have the luxury of possessing such so, don’t take it for granted!

Are you a giver, taker or both?

It can be difficult to come to a conclusion to this question depending on who you ask (including yourself.) It can also vary on a person’s mood or their general temperament. Personally, I am both but I am way more of a giver. I feel that I only take when it comes to my necessities. Let me be clear when I say TAKE, I mean those who don’t mind receiving things without reciprocating. And sometimes you don’t always HAVE to return the favor because some things should be done out of the goodness of someone’s heart. When I say GIVE, I am referring to those who don’t mind supplying a need or want to someone else whether it’s a loved one, friend or stranger. They don’t look for anything back because they either planned or decided to do a good deed.

Balance is key in every situation that you encounter. Without balance, things in your soul would be out of whack. (P.S. If you are experiencing an “out of whackness” or “funk”, your soul is crying out for help and you have to balance your energy and mind frame otherwise you will continue to self-destruct.) Overstand that enjoying the journey of exploring this balance is an incredible emotion that is unexplainable. During the process, you can learn so much about yourself that surprise and challenge your very own ideals and rules that you stand by. Expanding your comfort zone will be an up and down ride but I can promise you that you won’t regret it! So, if you are usually a giver try being a taker on certain occasions when you would have the courage to do so. For example, if your friend typically wants to pay when you have lunch and you both argue because you want to pay it, let them just have the victory of treating you to lunch. You deserve some little pleasures throughout your journey. If you are usually a taker try being a giver especially to someone who wouldn’t expect it from you. Opening your heart in these ways can yield satisfying results.

Don’t get distracted. Focus on your goals!

Through all of the hoopla going on in the world, sometimes it can be difficult to stay focused. In my opinion, the agenda has been and is distraction. Life isn’t always about being like someone else or concur with what someone does/says. It’s about respecting each other and growing as a human race! But when people are put against each other or given preconceived notions that are inaccurate then conflict and disagreements being to arise. This negative energy festers in some and takes them away from what their true focus or goal in life should be.

I like to think back to who I was before I got influenced by the media, propaganda and society. My authentic self! I started to get back into the mindset of not caring what others thought. I began to love the shock value that I possess towards society because it gets people curious and thinking. And don’t forget people can also be a distraction, well certain ones that you encounter. When you run into those who manipulate, harm, lie, cheat or try to take advantage of you or others, run away and get out of there. 😭

The question I have is, what are we getting distracted from? That’s what you need to dwell on. There are things being concealed or untold to the general public. My advice: FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE. Minding other peoples business does nothing but puts you in the midst of drama and/or confusion. My grandfather Bad Bill used to say: JUST MIND YOUR BUSINESS. IF YOU MIND YOUR BUSINESS, YOU WON’T HAVE TIME TO MIND MINE.

Stay woke!

I want to truly vent on negative feelings that I have experienced and you or know someone who may be currently experiencing. I am doing this to open my heart and show my transparency. I am not perfect. I don’t write my blog posts to pretend that I am. I feel that I can contribute to the common hurt and pain. In turn I want us all to heal together as a whole. This is like my online support group if you will. I want my readers to engage and let me know what topics or advice you guys want me to give! I am not a licensed therapist but I have seen plenty of therapists to know what I’m talking about 😂 and they see therapists too so…. I’m just saying if anything I write can help you then I’m gracious.

Life can send your mind through loops, slides and rollercoasters. It’s up to you for you to decide how you will respond rather than react. I went through a phase in my life where I kept comparing myself to others so I never felt good enough. Obviously it did nothing but further damage my self esteem as I hadn’t healed from my past trauma at this time as well. I really had to look at my life and vow to only focus on my goals and how to attain them as well as keeping my heart filled with love (spending time with family and friends). Another thing I focused on more was thinking back to the simple pleasures that made me happy as a child. I got back into my soul when I wasn’t worried about what people thought. It’s a miraculous feeling when you let go. Let go of insecurities, past problems and those who hurt you. It’s only gonna make your energy and vibration low which will MOST DEFINITELY hinder your success.